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Describe you in a word? I couldn't do it in a hundred!

It seems to have gone out of fashion lately, but when I was new to Facebook, it was very common to have someone tag you in a photograph that said, 'Describe me in one word'. Perhaps I take it too seriously, but such things have always made me uncomfortable. A person has so many sides to himself or herself! Honestly, I think that mentioning a single aspect would lead to overlooking  so many other vital ones that make the person who he or she is.
And things like being kind or caring just don't count (according to me, at least), because they're prerequisites for being a good friend!

For example- has anyone ever asked you who your BEST friend is? For as far back as I can remember, I have never had an answer to that question, because I don't have a single best friend. I have  groups of people whom I love very, very much, but I still love them all equally. The odd thing is the people who fall into this category have widely differing personality traits, albeit some basic similarities. Consequently, I'm a different 'me' with each group! It would be wrong to say I'm being more natural with one person, it's just that different sides of me a brought out with different people, which brings us back to the original point. I think it would would be impossible to describe all those 'mes' (or anyone else) in a  word. People are complex entities, and what we see depends on who we are and who they are with us. Isn't it fascinating?
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